K is for Kin or Kindred

One of my new (from this years’ Blogging A to Z Challenge)  blog friends, Dana at Waiter, Drink Please! mentioned that we are now one third of the way through the challenge.  One third is good.  Perhaps soon I’ll finally feel the direction I felt last year.  Perhaps I’ll have to wait until Next year to feel it!   Regardless, I’m diving in again, this time with the letter K.

Today the word is kin or kindred.  Dictionary.com defines kin as “a person’s relatives collectively; kinfolk.”  Interestingly, kindred is defined the same way when used as a noun.  But when used as an adjective it is defined as “having the same belief, attitude or feeling.”   I never realized the words would have the same definition. But you didn’t come here for a vocabulary lesson.  Neither did I.  I just realize as I get older that looking up words might give me a clearer picture of what people are saying and in truth, a clearer picture of what I’m saying.

Last year in the A to Z, I talked a lot about family members.  That might be one of the reasons I’m having trouble this year.  I used up all of the good topics last year.  That’s not true of course, but I did a lot of family posts.  I enjoyed doing them and they were well received.

I’ve always thought of kin as the family that we are given; our parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins.  I was blessed with wonderful, caring parents who left us too soon.  I was blessed with grandparents who I was blessed to have in my life much longer than some other people.  I will always be grateful for that.  My sister, Ele is always my biggest supporter.  She takes me as I am and loves me anyway.  I am so lucky to have her.

As life has progressed, so has technology and thanks to things like Facebook, I’ve been able to get back in touch with cousins both near and far.  It’s an amazing thing and I’m so grateful to now have them back in my life.

I’ve always thought of “kindred” as the people who you choose to have in your life.  Friends.  People you’ve gone to school with, people you’ve worked with.  Some people you find by accident, running into them in a store or a Weight Watchers meeting or even on-line.

I have friends that I’ve known my entire life and I do mean my entire life.  They are my age and we’ve lived through the same things together.  We’ve supported each other through easy times and through difficult times.  We know each other well.

I have friends that are young enough to be my children or in some cases even my grandchildren.  They are no less friends just because of the age difference. Friends come in all ages, all colors, all shapes and sizes.  I feel that I have developed real friendships with on-line friends as well.  Just because I’ve never seen them in person, doesn’t mean I can’t feel that connection.  I believe there is something in that person that clicks with something inside this person and it all works.

I believe in being open to new friends.  Some people are more cautious with making new friendships, they are wary of getting involved with new people.  I figure that I can never tell where that new friendship might lead.  I could learn something new, discover some wonderful opportunity.  If all I get out of it is a new friend, then that would be just fine with me.

Kin or Kindred?  Whichever you are, Thank you for being a part of my life.

Happy Friday!

18 responses to “K is for Kin or Kindred

  1. cath/waterloo,ON

    hugs, fran!! family is SO important…and family does not have to mean a blood relative. so glad you are surrounded by so many wonderful family and friends!

  2. I love connecting with new people!! 🙂 I think that’s part of why I’ve enjoyed blogging so much!

  3. Lovely blog. While I read it I thought about my family and friends, and I felt fortunate. Thanks for reminding me of my blessings.

  4. Since I no longer have any kinfolk in the strictest sense, I surrounded myself with kindred spirits. Sometimes the family you choose is better than the family your actually related to. And I value so many of my online friends as much as the real flesh and blood in person ones. I think of all the wonderful people I have met who I wouldn’t have ever connected with if not for the internet. My life would most assuredly be lacking without them.

  5. The word “kindred” always reminds me of “Anne of Green Gables”. 🙂

  6. Fran, I’ve been told that “Friends are the family you chose for yourself.” My parents are dead; I have no siblings. I have six first cousins, of whom I could find maybe three if I had to do so. But I have friends, male and female, of all ages, sizes, shapes, and colours. I have a great family!

    Blessings and Bear hugs!
    Bears Noting

  7. Kindred spirit is one of my fav phrases!

  8. Great post! One of the benefits of getting older is being able to be friends with people of all ages. Some of my dearest friends are younger than my kids. My F post was on my writer friends. They are indeed kindred souls.
    Kathy @ Swagger Writers

    • Hi Kathy and thanks for visiting! I agree, some of my friends are so much younger than me, but it doesn’t bother me. I believe that we meet the people that we need to meet. They don’t have to be in our age group to teach us something. Have a great day!

  9. What a lovely post Fran. I think kindred can also be those who you chose to share your life with, whether it be family, friends or an online community. This topic made me smile.

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